What do U think, part 1...Divorce, getting back together? Any HOPE??

Although it will be tough not knowing the whole story, but here goes. We have been together for 15 yrs, %26amp; married for 13 with 3 kids, 10, 7, 5. She was a stay at home mom, after our 1st so that I could peruse my dreams. She put everything on the back burner, so I could succeed. Then, I had a cheated a few yrs back for 2yrs in a nonsex relationship. However, I was forgiven %26amp; we started our lives back together we have had the best 2 1/2 yrs of our marriage, or so I thought. I found out, that she wasn鈥檛 happy %26amp; was told out of the blue that she wanted out. I was told that, if I had done everything I had done the past few yrs our relationship would have been 1 of the best. However, it cannot erase the hurt I had put her through %26amp; it was too little to late. She insists on the fact that, by getting divorced if we are to have a future, we will start with a clean slate and she can move past all the hurt. She insists that, she needs to find herself, find what makes her happy..look for part 2

What do U think, part 1...Divorce, getting back together? Any HOPE??headache

talk it out nice and calm if does not work go find you some one that you like when you get some one that you really like ask for their full name and birthday check out to see if they hand any crimal back ground check good

What do U think, part 1...Divorce, getting back together? Any HOPE??paramount theater opera theater

she needs to get away and sort things out without having u there to remind her what u had done. ask if she will be willing to seperate for a little while. go on vacation for a week. sounds like she tried but it just kept creeping into her mind of what u did. there is still hope for the 2 of u.
Well, I would hope that she isn't going to put her children through a divorce unless she is certain that she is going to stay seperate from you. Although the decision to stay together shouldn't be based on the children, they do play a part, and how much will they get screwed up if they see mom and dad going back and forth like that?

Has your wife considered therapy in order to help her find herself? I love how automatically "finding yourself" has to include ditching your spouse---it's BS! You do not have to be seperate from someone you love in order to find yourself, and I think she simply wants out because she cannot stand the fact that she stayed with you after what you did to her. Why did you have a non-sexual affair in the first place? Which, by the way, is quite hard to imagine! She doesn't want you to be a part of her life if she's talking about finding what makes her happy and she doesn't want you around to help her do it

After an affair, there is really little hope that things will be fantastical for the rest of your lives. I imagine the two of you never sought therapy after that and just went on like nothing ever happend? That's like burying a watermelon under your mattress! Seriously, suggest she see a counselor with you, but it seems like she already has made up her mind. Good luck to you!
i completely understand what she is going through. having you around everyday just reminds her what you did and that still hurts. eventhough she said she forgave you she is still not 100% over it. it might take a long time for her to actually forgive you and mean it.
SO..............THEN WHAT'S THE PROBLEM?